I'm really in love with my kids, and this surprises me. I mean, I'm their mom, I guess I shouldn't be surprised that I like them as much as I do but it does surprise me.
I've always loved babies. Since I was a tiny kid I've loved babies. Kids are another story. I never really had a strong fondness for kids. They are loud, and dirty, and troublesome, and worrisome, and they can be sassy, and rude, and exhausting.
As a matter of fact my mother recently reminded me of a conversation we had when I was very young. I told my mom that I wanted to have lots of babies when I grew up (and I didn't want to share them with my husband) but that when they got to be about 3 years old I wanted to give them away. Nice.
Boy, has that changed. Thank God!
I am still baby obsessed, but I can't believe how much I am really enjoying my kids. I really, truly like them as people. And this surprises me. I thought that once the baby phase was over I would just have to endure these little people but I am so relieved that is not true. I am a woman who will always miss having babies, but now I am also a woman who really freaking loves kids.
Having kids is like having a huge present that you are unwrapping very, very slowly. It is a mystery what is inside. You get tiny little glimpses here and there. Little by little you get to see who they are. Who they are becoming. Who they will be. It is exhilarating. And when you like what you see it is even more exciting.
This past weekend was just one of those weekends that really let me see how much fun and joy my KIDS bring to my life. They are funny, and most of the time on purpose. They are easy going. They are helpful, sometimes even without asking. They are kind. They try hard. They are fun.
My kids didn't have school on Friday and were pleasantly surprised to get some snow on their day off. As we sat in the library going over homework Joey noticed the neighbor across the street was shoveling a little path off her driveway. He immediately said he wanted to go and help her and hurried through his homework to get out there as soon as he could.
By the time he was dressed and ready to go the neighbor woman was inside her house so Joey and Tommy decided to do our driveway first. People, we have a HUGE driveway and they did an amazing job. I was shocked and how thorough and neat they were and what pride they took in their work. As soon as they finished our drive they moved on to the neighbor's. Man, this having kids thing is really starting to pay off! ;)
When their work was done all four kids went in the backyard to play while the rest of the cookies were baking. When their faces couldn't take anymore cold they were all back inside where I had started a fire and made some fresh popcorn on the stove.
Sunday morning the kids got up and played chess (again). I told you they are obsessed. It won't be long before they are winning every game against me. Egad. Thank goodness we couldn't play long because we had to get ready for church.
After church it was time for some serious frolicking in the snow. Mother nature had finally given us some good, packy snow. I can't remember the last time we got a decent snowman-making snowfall.
Unfortunately, I wasn't feeling great so I took a nap with the littles while Todd took the older boys out for a little bonding time. The nap worked wonders for me and I got the kids up early so we could head outside to make our snowman.
I don't know why my kids will never make a snowman on their own. They always insist on my help. Luckily, it was a warm, winter day and I really enjoyed myself. I didn't even realize how long we had been outside until it was pitch dark and time for dinner.
***Thank you all for your lovely comments on my last post. You are all so sweet and supportive and lovely. I was nervous about posting the story but I am glad I did it. It seems that good deeds are spreading. Elaine posted her good deed story here and it makes me bawl all over the place. I'm sure because of her story others will go out into the world with their eyes open to opportunities to help and serve as well. Good deeds, like smiles, are infectious. Keep spreading the love!! God bless!***