Thursday, August 28, 2008

Humor Works

Todd and I have a pretty solid marriage. We have fairly similar goals, we try to compromise, we get along pretty well most of the time, and we try to treat each other with respect in every circumstance.

Of course we have our problems too. Sometimes we are too much alike and in all the wrong places. We both have fierce tempers and are extremely stubborn. We both like to control situations and want things done our own way. We are both highly independent and need our space. All of these can cause trouble if we are both in the stubborn/controlling/temper tantrum mode at the same time.

Then there are times we couldn't be more different. He is an extrovert and I am an introvert impersonating an extrovert. He is a pessimist (he calls it being a realist) and I am an optimist. He would love to live in the country, and I need my city conveniences. He is constantly on the go, constantly moving, constantly fidgeting, and I could seriously hunker down in front of the TV for a whole day if left to my own devices. He wants to talk about a problem/fight/misunderstanding immediately and get it solved right now, and I want to ignore it like it never happened. The differences can get us into quite the pissing match every once in a while if we're not careful. Though I will say that we've learned to manage our way around our similarities and differences much better than when we were first married.

Luckily, we both have a sense of humor. The same quick witted, twisted, and sarcastic sense of humor at that. It has been our saving grace at times. Even when I really don't feel like laughing the man can crack me up. Sometimes his humor ticks me off even more (when I'm in the mood to be angry) and sometimes it works. Luckily it worked this time. I actually laughed out loud, which is saying something considering I was so annoyed to start with.

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One morning Todd and I were on each other's case about something or other. Probably something trivial like me telling him how long to put the boys' oatmeal in the microwave, and him getting pissy and telling me to bugger off because he knows how to make oatmeal. We kept exchanging snarky quips back and forth long after the boys had eaten their oatmeal, the dishes were cleared, and the boys were off playing. Clearly we were having one of those days. It just kept going and going until utterly annoyed I'd said, "You are really pissing me off!"
"Whatever." Todd muttered under his breath.
"I really wish I could kick you in the balls right now." I quickly spouted.
And without missing a beat Todd said, "I wish you had balls so I could kick them!"

44 comments:

maggie's mind said...

Bwahahaha, he wishes you had balls. Now *that* is funny and something he is unlikely to ever have reason to actually say ever again. Love it. Humor really is the best medicine no matter the ailment, even when it's the squabbles.

Immoral Matriarch said...

I can see why you love him so, that made me literally LOL.

I can't tell you how many times something as trivial as over cooked oatmeal has been the ruin of a week for my own marriage. Bleah.

Be my marriage counselor, if I ever decide to go back on that path.

Lisa said...

That is so funny...what a great love story ;)

Mom24 said...

That is funny. I assume that diffused the argument?

lime said...

if you can laugh it really does make it all easier.

Krystyn said...

That's good material right there! I think we would get along well.

Hubby hates my sarcasm. HATES it!!

Cassie said...

That is too funny! I totally get you on this, there are days that if we didn't resort to our sarcastic senses of humor, we would probably argue a lot more. Luckily, he can make me laugh enough to forget whatever trivial thing we were fighting about :)

Dawn said...

Oh my..that was hilarious!

Amy said...

Oh my gosh, that is hysterical!

wheelsonthebus said...

Just the way to cut the tension!

Elaine A. said...

This sounds very similar to another couple I know. Although only one of us really has a temper (sheepishly looking around...)

Thanks for making me laugh this morning. Laughter is the best "medicine." : )

kirsty815 said...

See I would've said something snarky like "I do they're yours, so go ahead we'll kill two birds with one stone". ~wink~

Kirst

Tiaras & Tantrums said...

that dear one - was funny!! You and he are me and him! Except - my hubbie has no sense of humor! It left when we had children!!

Ha ha ha

Kelly said...

I almost spit out my coffee. LOL

Humor saves my hubby and me too. We can get laughing at the stupidest things and I'm glad we both have the same warped sense of humor.

Jaysi said...

That is hysterical. Very similar to me and my husband, although some of the personality traits are reversed. It keeps the marriage exciting!

A Buns Life said...

I'd say you had some to even say your comment in the first place! :)

Motherhood for Dummies said...

HA HAH A... and just when I thought I couldn't like you and Todd anymore you go and post somethign like this. You can always make me crack up!

Candy said...

hahahhhahh! I don't know what movie line it's from- but Gene likes to tell me he wants to punch me in the Ovaries. ..he..he...whatever. So I'm lovin your "introvert impersonating an extrovert" comment. I'm that way too.

Brittany said...

haaaaaaaaaaaa that sounds like something andy and I would say! I just read this to him, and he too is laughing hysterically. He says "score one for Todd." haha.

anglophilefootballfanatic.com said...

That's why you two work. If you can't have a sense of humor when you're angry, you shouldn't be together. Even mad, you two are still being silly together.

Stephanie said...

Hahahaha! He's pretty quick! That's cute though - even if you were frustrated at the time. I mean, how can you not laugh at that? :)

Jennifer said...

Hilarious!!

And so familiar sounding...my kitchen some mornings, perhaps? Hmmm. Happily my husband makes me laugh too, even when I wish I could go on being angry. ;)

Shamelessly Sassy said...

hahaha. Hilarious!

Nissa said...

What a quick wit. I love that! That would have totally made a pissed off me laugh, too!

Kimmy said...

Sounds a lot like my relationship with my hubby. Although I am the extrovert and my husband is the introvert!

Kimmy

Veronica said...

You and your hubby sound very similar to me and mine!

Dawn Hudson said...

It's nice to read about other families that fight about stupid stuff also. Makes me feel somewhat normal! ;)

Tam said...

TOOO funny on so many levels!!!!!

CC said...

In high school I actually had a guy kick me there just to show me how it wouldn't hurt me nearly as much as him. Now, I can't compare. But MAN it hurt!! And I've never forgotten that seemingly random and cruel act!

Cyndi said...

Okay, that is apretty good comeback.

Fire Hunt said...

Thanks for making me laugh.

Claudious said...

I love having humor in common with my wife, with nothing else in common we could make that be all we need. So much in life needs nothing more than humor to get past it... humor and time.

DYSFUNCTIONAL MOM said...

Y'all sound a lot like us. Laughter definitely keeps us going!

scrap chair potato said...

Hilarious!
Reading this post I felt like I was reading about me and my husband. We are just like you two!

EatPlayLove said...

Yes, I agree, humor can help keep us grounded!

Dianna said...

Sooooo,
If he wished you had balls.....
Nevermind.

Caffeine Court said...

That's classic! My husband and I always say our problem isn't lack of communication, it's TOO MUCH communication. We say WHATEVER pops into our heads.

Molly's Mom said...

Tee hee hee...too funny, and allllll too familiar! Isn't it annoying when you want so badly to be angry and then you're forced to laugh? :)

Robyn said...

Ha, sometimes that's what makes it work. You guys some eerily similar to us.

Kristen said...

Sounds like the two of you were actually made for each other!

That was a perfect comeback. Way to go Todd! :)

Laughter is the best medicine!!

abritdifferent said...

Amazing how two people can be so alike, and yet so different, isn't it? And wow, what a comeback.

Hilary said...

Sounds to me like you were both being a bit teste.. errr.. testy. ;)

Kelley said...

I laughed out loud, too, but had to stop because I remembered I'd wake up my baby.

That's hilarious. I'll definitely show that one to my husband, :)

Golightly said...

Laughing out loud! My husband and I are also wired too much alike sometimes. Your second paragraph describes us to a T!

As for the TV and me, and left to my own devices. Yup.

Words To Live By

Be grateful for each new day.
A new day that you have never lived before.
Twenty-four new, fresh, unexplored hours to use usefully and profitably.
We can squander, neglect, or use them.
Life will be richer or poorer by the way we use today.
Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could;
some blunders and absurdities crept in;
forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day.
You shall begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be
encumbered with your old nonsense.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson