Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Laughter Is Good For The Soul

Sometimes the grief hits days later, as I am finding out.

As soon as the activity of the past busy week began to die down the mourning process began. I am not depressed and woeful all the time, but I find myself shedding tears easily and often.

It makes me especially grateful when I'm given a little tidbit like this that makes me laugh:

I was explaining to the boys, once again, that it is okay to be sad for us because we will miss grandpa, but that we can also be happy for grandpa that he is in such a wonderful place feeling so happy and free. I told them how I pictured grandpa watching over us and keeping us safe like St. Michael the Archangel, and how grandpa would always be with us. Every party we have he will be there. Every time we are afraid he will be there. He will always be watching over us.

I thought I had sufficiently explained and comforted the boys until Joey looked at me and said, "Um... mom? Does that mean Michael Jackson is watching over us too?"

34 comments:

lakeviewer said...

You got some explaining to do, Lucy!

BeautifulWreck said...

OMG. LMAO. That is great. I guess you will have to tell him yes?

Mom24 said...

Now that would scare the heck out of me!

Sorry you're blue--I'm sure it's unavoidable. It sounds like your dad was one heck of a guy. Take care of yourself--be good to yourself.

Cassie said...

AWKWARD!! LOL

Riahli said...

Oh my gosh, that made me giggle...how funny is that...what can you possibly say in response to that?

Emily said...

How funny...I love how kids' minds work!

Rebecca Ramsey said...

Oh what a sweetheart.
Hugs to you!

DysFUNctional Mom said...

*giggles* Now that IS funny! xoxo

sitting on the mood swing at the playground said...

Don't you love kids' minds?

It's been nearly 12 years since my dad died and I always find comfort thinking that he's watching over me and cheering me on.

Stephanie said...

Alright, I didn't expect that last part. I had to giggle out loud at that.

I hope the healing process goes smoothly for you. It's never an easy thing to lose someone...

Kelly said...

That's funny. Are you a little creeped out that MJ might be hovering around your house? LOL

Kelly said...

That's funny. Are you a little creeped out that MJ might be hovering around your house? LOL

Jaysi said...

Ha! Ha! That is awesome! It is a logical conclusion! I am glad you were able to get a laugh out of it.

Kat said...

Riahli- I told them that "NO", MJ is not watching over them (he better not be!) because MJ didn't know them. Grandpa watches over them because he knew them and loves them. That seemed to satisfy them. ;)

Hilary said...

Hugs to you and your wee ones. Too sweet, they are. :)

Karen Deborah said...

smart kid. Personally I think that heaven would not be heaven if we can see Earth. But heaven is awesome, read some of Rev23 and find out just how cool it is and then rejoice to know!
Kat, I am sorry that you are going through this now. You will miss your Dad. This baby is coming at a good time to bring new joy into your lives.
God knew all along and he planned it this way. To bring you joy.

Wacie's Way said...

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Lisa said...

that's hillarious!!! what did you say???

Tammy said...

Kids say whatever is on their minds. Granpda is surely watching over your boys and soon to be little girl.

Green Girl in Wisconsin said...

Ah, the balm of little children!

Molly's Mom said...

They somehow know how to make us laugh even in our grief, don't they?! What cuties you have!

A Buns Life said...

Oy Vey!!

Krystyn said...

Yikes...that is funny...and not so funny. Oh, to have been a fly on the wall for your response.

Elaine A. said...

And then you said.....??

Those boys keep you are you toes, don't they? ; )

Chris said...

Kids are AWESOME! They have an innate sense of timing (without realizing).

I can't count the number of times my children have saved me from despair.

Hang in there Kat.

bindhiya said...

Dear Kathryn,
am sorry to hear about your dad.
but your little one (Joey) is too cute asking that.. lol.
Your blog changed a lot...it look beautiful.
love and ((hugs))
bindi

Not Your Aunt Bea said...

Let's hope not! But I do think grandpa is and will always be looking out for your boys (and girl!). Big hugs to you!

Splaneyo said...

Kat,
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I know how special he was to you. I will be thinking of you and your family.

Kids are so helpful in times like these. They bring innocence and humor and sometimes that is all you need to get you through the day. =)
Heather

Random Musings Of My Life said...

Water just came out of my nose.. thats so funny

kirsty815 said...

LOL You know whenever someone close to me dies I always think can they really watch over me? Usually these thoughts come when I'm in the shower, or picking a wedgie, or doing something else you try to do privately. It always makes me giggle. With death there has to be laughter or it would be so much harder to bare. Sorry for your loss!

tweetey30 said...

Kids.The things they come up with Kat.. That was a good one from the little guy..

Moannie said...

That was a good question. Will Frankie be here too? Sinatra,I mean of course.

Maggie's Mind said...

Hehehe, glad there are some bits of laughter mixed in with the grief. I think it's the best way, really. It can be a long journey, and taking whatever breaks we can find is more than allowed, especially when it's something this funny!

lime said...

oh my, i am so very late in getting here that i am only now finding out your father passed away. my sincerest and deepest condolences. i am glad you have peace and comfort both from family and faith.

and this conversation...oh man, that IS hilarious! what young boy wouldn't be scared to think MJ is watching over them? LOL

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