As parents we don't get that. We just have to try our best and hope that we are making the right decisions. We don't know how our decisions will pan out until years down the road, if ever. Each decision has the possibility to nurture and teach or scar and hurt. Of course we always want a positive result but emotions are involved in this job and many decisions need to be made in a split second. Mistakes are made. And we hope they are small mistakes.
We hope that maybe someday there will be validation. "Mom, remember that time you found out I stole a tube of chapstick from the store and you got me out of bed, made me get dressed, drove me all the way back to the store, held my hand as I was crying when we walked into the store, and made me apologize and give back the chapstick? I'll never forget that. I learned my lesson." Or, "Dad, remember the time you were driving us up north in that horrible snowstorm and you kept pulling over to help dig people out of the ditch even though you didn't have any gloves? And then you even towed them out with your truck though you were worried your truck couldn't handle it. I always stop to help people now." Or, "You two always believed in me. Even before I believed in myself. I always knew that no matter what decision I made I could count on your support."
You hope they are getting it. You hope it is sinking in. You hope you are doing a good job. But you never really know.
And it is the not knowing that is tough.