Friday, March 14, 2008

Feeling Better

I feel much better
Thank you for letting me rant
I feel much lighter
Mad post yesterday
Helped remind me of all the
Lovely comments too
Most people are kind
Lavishing praise on my boys
Compliments and love
Must ignore the bad
That are outnumbered by good
And by my own thoughts

Just wanted to say "thank you" again to everyone for letting me rant yesterday. It was good to get that out of my head. Like I said yesterday I really don't care what crazy strangers say to me, but when it is said in front of my boys I get angry. Don't mess with me boys!
Ranting like that also reminded me that those rude comments are few and far between compared to the positive comments the boys usually receive for being so well behaved, polite, cute, and sweet. I hope their ears are open to the good comments and closed to the bad comments.


Moving on...

I have been in a much better mood this past week. My funky-depression-like state has been lifted. I feel happy, light, and cheery. It is so nice. I don't know if it is because of the increased sunlight thanks to Daylight Savings Time or if I was just able to snap myself out of it. Whatever the reason, I'm feeling good.
The weather has been like a heatwave, hovering around 40 degrees and sunny, all week. The mounds and mounds of snow are slowly melting and I can even see a bit of brown snow peeking out from beneath the snow piles right next to the sidewalk. Heaven! I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Soon we will be spending our days taking walks outside, going to the park, kicking a ball around the backyard, and planting flowers. I am so excited!
And on an even happier note...

My sister-in-law and her family just picked up their new baby yesterday! I am so excited for them I can hardly stand it. He is 8 months old and absolutely adorable. They have been praying for this baby for years. They have a sweet, fantastic, gorgeous 7 year old daughter, Cassie, and have been trying to add to their family since she was a toddler. They suffered through miscarriage after miscarriage. After fertility treatments repeatedly failed, they finally turned to adoption a few years ago. They filed all of the paperwork. Did the house studies. Went through the interviews. And were finally chosen by a birth mother, only to have their hearts broken.
Then came Wyatt. A short time ago they received a call that another mother had chosen them. They cautiously met the baby and fell in love. All the meetings went perfectly. Everything fell into place. The only condition the birth parents had was that they wanted the baby to be named Wyatt. Done. My sis-in-law and her hubby tried to continue cautiously (they didn't even tell Cassie that she might be getting a brother for fear it would not work out again), but their hearts fell more and more in love with Wyatt every time they saw him. Each night as they tucked Cassie into bed they would listen to her prayers asking God for a baby brother or sister, and exchange hopeful looks.
Yesterday the birth mother terminated her rights and my sis-in-law and her family went to pick up their new baby. I am overwhelmed with happiness for them and have tears in my eyes even now as I write this. They picked Cassie up from school, handed her a "Big Sister" bracelet, and told her they were on their way to pick up her baby brother. Her excitement was immeasurable.
They had an actual ceremony where the birth mother physically hands the baby over to the adoptive parents. I cannot imagine being that birth mother and what it must be like to terminate your rights to your child and then hand him to his new family. I cannot fathom the grief. Every time I think about it I cry. But I am thankful. So very thankful that she was able to show such an amazingly selfless act of love for this child. Because this child will be loved and cared for by a wonderful family, and a warm and kind extended family. This child is blessed. And I want that birth mother and father to know that we all think they are amazing. Wise beyond their years. Loving beyond comprehension. And we thank them. From the bottom of our hearts, we thank them. And I pray for them too. I pray that their hearts be comforted in what I can only imagine must be an extraordinarily painful time.
And just one more thing...
I was just about to post this and I received a call that my mom was taken to the hospital. She had extreme shortness of breath, horrible chest pain, and then she passed out. Of course, all of my brothers and my sister and I ran over to the hospital right away. The doctors ran tests and it turns out she has Pericarditis (inflammation of the heart). A much better diagnosis than the heart attack we thought she was having. However, with all of her other medical problems (Multiple Myeloma) it is worrisome to me. She has already been released from the hospital and is at home. So, whew! That's good. Still, if you could say a little prayer for her that would be fabulous.
Thank you!


Anonymous said...

Glad to know you're better! Happy Friday!

krissy said...

I'm so happy for your family and the new addition! I think that parents that know they cannot do the job well so they love their children enough to give them to a wonderful family are mature and responsible.

I will say a prayer for you mom! I'm glad she is home but I understand your fears!!!

I love the sunlight we have been getting to! Hello spring, I've missed you!

Unknown said...

I'm glad you are feeling better. You have had a week of it. I'll send some good thoughts your mother's way.

Wyatt. I love the name. I can't fathom the love and heartbreak that goes into giving up a child for adoption but I am so happy to hear that you have a new little nephew.

And as for the rant yesterday? Girl it is your blog. You need to vent.

When I first suspected I was pregnant with BB, I took Peanut with me to the store and bought a few things, including a pregnancy test. The cashier eyed me as she bagged the test and asked, in front of many people, if I would be happy with a positive result. What? Do. I. Know. You??? People.

Oh, and since I'm already going on and on I thought I'd add an apology. I had previously removed the word verification from my blog for you but then got a bunch of robots leaving spam and links to viruses. I put the WV back on but did so reluctantly.

Happy Friday, Kat.


Michelle said...

I hopped over from Haiku Friday and see you're a fellow Wisconsinite! Where else is 40 a heatwave?!

For the record? Your boys are beautiful and you'd be lucky to have a dozen of them! Although you may need a bigger shopping cart for that. Ha! People have no common sense some days.

How wonderful for your SIL & her family! Congrats for new baby, Wyatt!

Well, just wanted to say hi!


I am glad your SIL got her baby,
it is a blessing when a baby goes
to someone who really wants a
baby,and can give the baby a good
home. I am glad the situation turned out good for them.
Glad M was there to make sure she
went and had this checked out.
Very scary, D looks very worried.
Many prayers will be said tonight.
Lots more ((HUGS)) from us all!

Anonymous said...

Glad you are feeling better. I've had a bumpy week, too.

I'm thrilled for your sister-in-law. It scares me thinking about adoption when it doesn't work out, but when it does go through, it is truly such a beautiful and wonderful thing. Wyatt is a lucky little guy to be in a family where he is so very much wanted and loved.

Thinking good thoughts for your mom, too.

the planet of janet said...

congrats on the new nephew ... and i hope things go better for you.

Ashley said...

Awesome story. Made me tear up. *sigh* Congrats to them all...

And, your mom is in my prayers.


Melissa said...

Prayers for mother
Yippee for the new nephew
Great haiku today.


Joyce said...

Kathryn, I'm so glad you're feeling better. Thank you for all the good news about Wyatt, and I'm praying for your mom. :)

david mcmahon said...

If you are ever feeling down, tell us - that's what true blog friends are for.

We'll say more than one prayer for your Mum.

Anonymous said...

I hope the positive energy from your sister leaks right on over to your mother.

Gift of Green said...

What a beautiful family you have - those snarky people are just jealous. ;) Thanks for today's 'ku.

Laura said...

Glad you are feeling better.

That is amazing about the newest family member - sending them lots of love during this adjustment time.

Thanks for sharing - you helped pick me up today with all the wonderful news and vibes!

Cara said...

I will keep you and all your family in my prayers. Hope your mother feels better, congrats to you SIL, and so Happy for you sapring is approaching!

suchsimplepleasures said...

my thoughts are there, with your family!!!

congratulations on wyatt! i like that's different and cute!!

glad to hear that you are feeling better...sunlight does wonders!!

Head Gaggler said...

Glad to hear your feeling better. Oh and just to let you know we get looked at like we have three heads too when we go out with our three kids. I always thought a big family was one with 12 kids but apparently three is the magic BIG number now. What is that about? But like you, I just ignore and go on with my day.

Anonymous said...

I hate when people open their mouths and proceed to vomit on you.. It sucks. I get it ALL. THE. TIME. One time someone said, "Are they all yours?" and I replied with, "Nope, they all have different fathers!" I mean, isn't that what she wanted to hear? LOL

Congrats on the new baby in the family. And, prayers said for your Mama.

storyteller said...

Ranting sometimes helps
as does letting ‘bad things’ go
I’m glad you’re okay.

Happy for your new
fam’ly member … Adoption
can be such a gift!

I hope that your mom
will recover very soon.
She’ll be in my prayers.

Hugs and blessings,

Stephanie Wilson she/her @babysteph said...

I hope your Mom is ok and glad your spirits are lifting!!


Kelly said...

That is such an awesome story about your new nephew! Congrats to your SIL and family.

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I'm sure that was scary. I hope she's doing better today.

Nissa said...

Your mom is definitely in my prayers.

Glad you're feeling happier & congrats to your Sis in law & family for the loving addition to their family! That's wonderful!


Izzy, Emmy 'N Alexander said...

I am not sure why people find it necessary to be so hurtful, hateful and rude. I have two girls, 25 months and 3 months. Both were born bald. Every time we go out, people say one of two things:

1-"Gosh such cute boys you have." No, they are girls, see the PINK DRESSES!? "Oh, you should really make it more noticeable. And how come no hair?" Well, I decided to shave their heads at a really young age, you know!

2- "Wow, two kids and only 21 months apart. Are you going nuts?" Um, NO...Are you?!

So, in the 25 Months I have been a mother, I have learned one thing, just one. (haha) Talk back to strangers!! If those people have the nuts to say something so profoundly stupid they probably won't get your sarcastic answer anyway.

3 boys- Congrats!! They are cuties and I must say, I love the pictures of them in the leaves. Great photo!!

Becki said...

Stupid people suck. Glad you're feeling better :)
Congrats to your SIL and family - how exciting!!

Anonymous said...

Glad you are feeling better! Congrats to your SIL on the new baby! And I'll keep you and your mother in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

Praying for your mom!

Jenny said...

Such an inspirational story about Wyatt! I'm so happy for them that their patience paid off! Are we going to get to see a picture of your nephew? :-)

Best wishes to your mother! I hope she recovers quickly!!

Anne B. said...

Gosh, I'm angry from reading people's Blogs this last week or so... I've heard lots of rants, including a lactation consultants saying, "well, if you want to explain to your child that you didn't love them enough to breast feed," another mommy is asked a lot if she is the "help" because she looks young and ethnic and another is constantly quizzed about her small baby!

For the record, my hubby is the King of Dumbasscomments, and he never means them bad or harshly. I always give him hell, though. :-)

Glad you feel better and congrats on your nephew!

Bren said...

I'm so happy for your sister's family! And big congrats to you on gaining a nephew!

Prayers and good thoughts going out to your mom!

Family Adventure said...

Wow, such extremes...from the high of baby Wyatt's arrival into your family (that ceremony gave me goose bumps) your mother (I am relieved she is OK!).

I didn't read your ranting post yesterday - I was away for a couple of days, but I am SHOCKED that people will say such things. Really...people spend way too much time worrying about everybody else's business. It boggles the mind.


Mary Beth said...

Sending lots of positive thoughts to your mother - hope everything works out well for her.

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry about your mom...hope she recovers quickly and luckily it wasn't a heart attack.

And WOW, what a beautiful story about Wyatt! I can't imagine being the birth mother, she is brave and selfless. Congratulations on getting a new nephew!

MarĂ­a said...

I'm happy for your sister and you're mom is in my thoughts.


Melissa said...

Okay...I must be a little emotional today cause I got a little teary eyed readying that post! So happy for your family! Espesally happy that the birth mother came through. My husband was adopted and we love hearing great stories about adoption!

Rachel said...

I'm glad you're better.
I'm over here grooving to the Norah playing on your page now. I adore her!!!
Congrats on the new family member! What ablessing.

Prayers for you and all of your family sweets.
Thank you for all your wonderful comments. You are appreciated.

Kellan said...

I'm glad you are feeling better!! I'm also so happy for your sister and their new baby, that is so wonderful!! I'm also glad you mother is home and it was not as serious as a heart attack. Take care and have a wonderful weekend - see you soon. Kellan

Amy said...

Well I am so happy for the new addition to your family, that is wonderful! And I hope that your mom gets better soon!

Anonymous said...

Wow. That was SOME post! 1. I am SOO glad you are doing better. 2. You rant whenever you feel the need, dear 3. I am so happy for the warmer weather & more sun. 4. YAY. A new baby! 5. I'll be praying for your mom.

Momisodes said...

I'm so glad you're feeling better. I think the extra bit of sunlight is doing us both a bit of good this week :)

Congratulations on the new addition, and your mom is in my thoughts...

Tumblewords: said...

Glad to know life is better for you - it's so easy to get caught up in the emotion that others send to us. How well I know. Nice haiku!!

Unknown said...

Adoption just kills me because it's SO wonderful that someone who is going to LOVE that child to pieces and is able to provide for it has that opportunity to be their parent, but me myself - I cannot even begin to fathom giving up my own child - ever. With all that said, I am very happy for your sister-in-law and your family. What a beautiful gift and well written by you...

Good thoughts for your mother too!

Anonymous said...

I just read your comment post. GEESH! With four boys, I hear them all too. And so do my boys! Pathetic... this is why I stay home and rarely... rarely, if I can help it leave home. When I do, I talk to my boys the WHOLE time and ignore everyone else. I look to stun them with my competency! LOL!

Beck said...

I'll pray for your mom.
We hear weird things about our three kids - like we're the first family in town to have more then one or soemthing. Weird.

Mandy (ZenMonkeyMind) said...

Glad you're feeling better!

That is sooooo great about your sis!! They must be thrilled! How exciting :)

Blog said...

Wow! That's so exciting for your sis-in-law and her family -- and YOU and yours! Wonderful!! melts my heart to think of the baby getting his family... REALLY sad about his birth mother but wonderful for him!

I'm so glad you're feeling better. Sometimes, these things just take time....

ConverseMomma said...

Your mom is in my prayers. And, I'm just crying tears of joy for your sister. I've been where she is. I lost three babies before adopting my miracle son, Jack. There is nothing like the feeling of bringing your child, the one you hoped for, feared you would lose, loved despite the risk, wanted so badly, and knew was a miracle the moment you found out of their existance, home, safe and sound. What a joy!!!!

Hugs and hearts!

Burgh Baby said...

I hope your Mom is doing well, and that Wyatt enjoys a smooth transition to his new family.

Scylla said...

Happy Friday!! I am glad you are feeling better!

Don't pay the ignorance of strangers any mind.

Brittany said...

yay for feeling better! :)

Congrats on being an Auntie! :)

Putting the FUN in DysFUNctional said...

The story of the adoption left me teary-eyed! Congrats and best wishes to the family.
My prayers are with your mother!


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Laski said...

OK--first off, I hope your mom is doing better. T's mom came to visit us and within 48 hours she was in the hospital. We are still waiting to hear what is going on. UGH!

Great news about the new addition. I can't imagine being the birth mom, but wow--what courage and how wonderful for your family.

And finally, if there is one thing I have learned lately, there are AMAZING people out there and a lot of them seem to have blogs :)

I'll be thinking of you . . .

Kellan said...

Hi Kathryn - hope you are having a good weekend - thanks for coming by - Kellan

Rose said...

Glad you are better, I only caught up and commented today. What a wonderful answer to prayer for your SIL and I will most definitely keep your mom in prayer for good health.

Have a great week!

MamaGeek @ Works For Us said...

Oh friend, I'm definitely saying prayers for your Mom and hoping this week is better!

And the ignorance? IGNORE it!

Words To Live By

Be grateful for each new day.
A new day that you have never lived before.
Twenty-four new, fresh, unexplored hours to use usefully and profitably.
We can squander, neglect, or use them.
Life will be richer or poorer by the way we use today.
Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could;
some blunders and absurdities crept in;
forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day.
You shall begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be
encumbered with your old nonsense.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson