tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post5840875434000954688..comments2023-11-22T11:30:17.400-06:00Comments on Seeking Sanity: Am I A Party Pooper?Kathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14339665205284492242noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-58988563961855946672008-10-12T23:19:00.000-05:002008-10-12T23:19:00.000-05:00Like the others have stated, I wouldn't let him go...Like the others have stated, I wouldn't let him go without being under my own or another trusted watchful eye. Regardless of all advice, the best thing is to follow your instincts and clearly they're saying "no way!"Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-57594616194641687332008-10-10T18:39:00.000-05:002008-10-10T18:39:00.000-05:00No...no...and no...my 5 year old daughter would no...No...no...and no...my 5 year old daughter would not be going. I've just gotten to the point where I'm *kind* of ok that she's at school in a classroom with a teacher and an aide for 2 1/2 hours a day without me. That adult/child ratio is a heck of a lot better then the swim party stats.<BR/><BR/>You're a good mama...and I'll be back...holding onto my sanity is a full time job! ; )Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11209436415597129716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-42312074204520890972008-10-10T10:03:00.000-05:002008-10-10T10:03:00.000-05:00Again, thanks for letting me know I'm not just bei...Again, thanks for letting me know I'm not just being overprotective. As I said above, I'm not sure I can make it to the party as I have two other boys to take care of and hubby may not be around that weekend. But he will definitely not be going to the party without me. <BR/>:)Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339665205284492242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-62022789062917194192008-10-10T05:30:00.000-05:002008-10-10T05:30:00.000-05:00Oh, sweetie...I'd be there with him! He's only 5, ...Oh, sweetie...I'd be there with him! He's only 5, and you're his mama! It's refreshing to see that there's a mom out there who uses her brain!!!<BR/><BR/>Congrats on your Post of the Day award from authorblog!!rosecreekcottage-carol.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09764384473339337575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-41123757988731689272008-10-10T04:25:00.000-05:002008-10-10T04:25:00.000-05:00Without me, at five years old and a non swimmer? A...Without me, at five years old and a non swimmer? Absobloodyutely not!<BR/><BR/>Check out how many adults are going, invite yourself or just go.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-26393357121530914812008-10-10T02:23:00.000-05:002008-10-10T02:23:00.000-05:00If I were in your shoes, I would accompany him to ...If I were in your shoes, I would accompany him to the pool, and stay there, in the background, of course. <BR/><BR/>Take a book and relax, once you have assured yourself that the children are well taken care of.<BR/><BR/>I came over from David's Authorblog, congratulations on "Post of the Day"! :-)Merisihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16781937797213521146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-50464846116531429472008-10-08T21:51:00.000-05:002008-10-08T21:51:00.000-05:00Living in Arizona, we have swim parties all the ti...Living in Arizona, we have swim parties all the time. However, I always go with my son. I don't ever think it is safe for kids to swim without a good amount of adults on hand and a lifeguard as well. It is just too risky. Since this is probably not so typical in your neck of the woods, the parents should have specified if you should stay or if other adults will be supervising. Even with other adults I would not send my 5 year old without me. Even if you don't get in. <BR/><BR/>As far as the changing thing.....we mostly are outside so people just throw on a cover up or something like that. I wouldn't have even thought of the showering/changing thing. <BR/><BR/>Good luck with your decision.Jaysihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09308790833731919696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-27172329885308154952008-10-08T21:23:00.000-05:002008-10-08T21:23:00.000-05:00The only way I would let Meggers go is if my hubby...The only way I would let Meggers go is if my hubby or I accompanied her into the pool. <BR/><BR/>I get very overprotective when there are a lot of kids and it's a pool party. So I totally get why your nervous, but I'd rather be over protective than an ounce under protective.<BR/><BR/>Good Luck with your decision that's a tough one.<BR/>KirstAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-11856219388615683612008-10-08T19:02:00.000-05:002008-10-08T19:02:00.000-05:00Personally, I screen ALL birthday parties pretty h...Personally, I screen ALL birthday parties pretty heavily.Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16703334707738126703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-54906660078388194682008-10-08T17:38:00.000-05:002008-10-08T17:38:00.000-05:00I think the deciding factor would be if you or you...I think the deciding factor would be if you or your husband was going, too. At that age, it would only make sense if at least one parent accompanied the child to a swim party.ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-52805803616105745802008-10-08T14:14:00.000-05:002008-10-08T14:14:00.000-05:00Goosey had a swim party this summer, but the whole...Goosey had a swim party this summer, but the whole family was invited. We were in charge of the suit, towel, etc. Could you tag along?Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769967354682232429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-58498348380256276962008-10-08T13:47:00.000-05:002008-10-08T13:47:00.000-05:00around here parents always stick around for the pa...around here parents always stick around for the parties, could you stick around and keep an eye on him yourself. MQ is six and an excellent swimmer, and I wouldn't be comfortable if I weren't there.painted maypolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06446625015003854710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-59562510304001272342008-10-08T09:18:00.000-05:002008-10-08T09:18:00.000-05:00They at least should have specified that other adu...They at least should have specified that other adults would be there as well...or that you're welcome to stay. If you go, I would stay. But to be honest, I wouldn't want to go either - I'd make up an excuse and tell him you'll take him to the mall (or whatever) instead. :-)Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11015643445808703915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-86435093785947964972008-10-08T07:39:00.000-05:002008-10-08T07:39:00.000-05:00I would let him go but I would attend. To answer ...I would let him go but I would attend. To answer your question directly, yes you are.Bryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02757712782913252135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-83197911703453537932008-10-08T07:08:00.000-05:002008-10-08T07:08:00.000-05:00my husband used to work as a swim instructor and a...my husband used to work as a swim instructor and a lifeguard at the Y. there are standards for the lifeguard to swimmer ratio so that should not be a great concern. the locker room would be more problematic though yes, so if you can hang around for that sake it doesn't seem unreasonable since you don't know the parents very well.limehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17259558876349307173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-87753561714028635622008-10-08T07:04:00.000-05:002008-10-08T07:04:00.000-05:00Can you stay at the party to help supervise? Woul...Can you stay at the party to help supervise? Would you want to? <BR/><BR/>I would be nervous about a swim party with so many kids and just a few adults. I think you are totally justified for having concerns.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-4015238393894973812008-10-08T05:55:00.000-05:002008-10-08T05:55:00.000-05:00Yeah, I'm late and you already have it sorted (31 ...Yeah, I'm late and you already have it sorted (31 times) but my opinion is: I would let him go if I could go along to help out. Otherwise, I'm like you, I don't take unnecessary chances.imbeingheldhostagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00771374087307254969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-12232378484431483702008-10-08T03:45:00.000-05:002008-10-08T03:45:00.000-05:00I have a big fear of my kids in water without me b...I have a big fear of my kids in water without me being RIGHT THERE watching. Even my 15 year old. (just kidding....ok not really)<BR/>So, my answer is NO, not unless I could stay.<BR/>I still hate it when my ex & his wife take the kids to the beach or lake on their weekends. It freaks me out to know they're in the water without me watching them. I have to try to block it out.Putting the FUN in DysFUNctionalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02996772324484385959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-7481530951277703692008-10-07T23:48:00.000-05:002008-10-07T23:48:00.000-05:00Thanks for the advice, all! If I can go along (se...Thanks for the advice, all! <BR/><BR/>If I can go along (see above explanation) I'll let him go. Otherwise, no way. I just am not comfortable with it. I've let him go to birthday parties without me before but this is different. <BR/><BR/>Thanks again! I feel less party pooperish. <BR/><BR/>Although, Brittany, I do like the song. ;)Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339665205284492242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-27923192272702296012008-10-07T23:44:00.000-05:002008-10-07T23:44:00.000-05:00I've never not gone to a party with my kids... so ...I've never not gone to a party with my kids... so I'd probably just show up too! Especially since my kids can't swim (well, he's finally put his face under if that counts). So I'd probably let him go, but definitely go along as well!CChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01537821831479150677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-52849539828441779952008-10-07T20:59:00.000-05:002008-10-07T20:59:00.000-05:00Is it possible for you to go as well? Then, you c...Is it possible for you to go as well? Then, you could keep tabs on him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-4616898309178462812008-10-07T20:57:00.000-05:002008-10-07T20:57:00.000-05:00If you're a party pooper, then color me brown too....If you're a party pooper, then color me brown too. I totally would not be on board with letting my child go to a swim party at a young age. Nuh uh. Not without me.Molly's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05309400151779204523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-60839248213434603702008-10-07T20:33:00.000-05:002008-10-07T20:33:00.000-05:00My kids would go if I could go also.My kids would go if I could go also.Fire Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02225247221620668905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-63482208875359956062008-10-07T20:10:00.000-05:002008-10-07T20:10:00.000-05:00I would not let my 5 year old go to a swim party w...I would not let my 5 year old go to a swim party without me either. I just don't think I would feel comfortable at that age.Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08547213725995448861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7390236678783638686.post-4010834603453794042008-10-07T19:13:00.000-05:002008-10-07T19:13:00.000-05:00I would let my child go if I knew the family very ...I would let my child go if I knew the family very well and my child was good friends with the birthday child. I think also I would stay and supervise, especially when they are so young.Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11309240677299447309noreply@blogger.com